My uncle has four daughters, each about two years apart in age, but his oldest daughter never really fit in. Their mom obsessed over the three younger girls and mostly ignored her eldest.
As adults, the three younger sisters learned from a drunken aunt that their dad isn’t the oldest daughter’s biological father. It turns out their mom was pregnant with her when she met her husband (in a bar). The daughters are all now in their 50s and for decades everyone in the family has known — except her.
I’ve always believed that someone should tell her. Her father and sisters have said it wasn’t their secret to tell — it was her mom’s, who died two years ago.
In the past few years, the oldest daughter has cut off all ties to her family. When she didn’t go to her mom’s funeral, her father cut her out of his will without telling her.
There are complicated family dynamics, to put it mildly (her mom was a severe alcoholic and emotionally abusive). I’m just a cousin, but I believe that someone should tell her.
It may be because I’m adopted, but I think that her DNA is something she/anyone should know, especially since dozens of other people know about it.
Should I be the one to tell her?
As adults, the three younger sisters learned from a drunken aunt that their dad isn’t the oldest daughter’s biological father. It turns out their mom was pregnant with her when she met her husband (in a bar). The daughters are all now in their 50s and for decades everyone in the family has known — except her.
I’ve always believed that someone should tell her. Her father and sisters have said it wasn’t their secret to tell — it was her mom’s, who died two years ago.
In the past few years, the oldest daughter has cut off all ties to her family. When she didn’t go to her mom’s funeral, her father cut her out of his will without telling her.
There are complicated family dynamics, to put it mildly (her mom was a severe alcoholic and emotionally abusive). I’m just a cousin, but I believe that someone should tell her.
It may be because I’m adopted, but I think that her DNA is something she/anyone should know, especially since dozens of other people know about it.
Should I be the one to tell her?
Obsses: if something or someone obsesses you, you think or worry about them all the time and you cannot think about anything else – used to show disapproval
Turn out: to happen in a particular way, or to have a particular result, especially one that you did not expect
Abusive: using cruel words or physical violence
Adopt: to take someone else’s child into your home and legally become its parent
