I am a 60-year-old widowed man. My wife of over 30 years passed away four years ago after a long illness.

My late wife’s sister and I started spending time together about six months ago. We have many shared interests and have always gotten along very well. She has been divorced for several years.

Our relationship has turned romantic, and we are in love. We discuss our future together and want to make this work. So far, we have kept our relationship a secret. There are adult children on both sides. There are several family members, along with our children, whom we will have to tell.

Are we wrong in pursuing this? How should we tell our children and other family members? We’re concerned that even one unaccepting person may be the grounds to break this up and cause years of tension. My marriage was wonderful, and all the family relations on both sides are great — for now.

Your advice?