My husband of 45 years recently came to me with a proposal. He wants to deepen a friendship with a single woman 20 years younger.


He says she lifts his spirits, is creative, and is a great mom to her children.


Their conversations are lively and interesting, and he finds that he wants to be around her more often.


I was flabbergasted and hurt to the core. To me, this is an emotional affair. Because of my reaction, he has labeled me as lacking self-esteem and accuses me of not trusting him.


Am I overreacting to this proposal, or am I being perfectly reasonable?