I am a 60-year-old widowed man. My wife of over 30 years passed away four years ago after a long illness.
My late wife’s sister and I started spending time together about six months ago. We have many shared interests and have always gotten along very well. She has been divorced for several years.
Our relationship has turned romantic, and we are in love. We discuss our future together and want to make this work. So far, we have kept our relationship a secret. There are adult children on both sides. There are several family members, along with our children, whom we will have to tell.
Are we wrong in pursuing this? How should we tell our children and other family members? We’re concerned that even one unaccepting person may be the grounds to break this up and cause years of tension. My marriage was wonderful, and all the family relations on both sides are great — for now.
Your advice?
I am a 30-year-old woman. I’ve been with my fiancé for almost seven years. When we first met, my hair was platinum blonde. Now that I am a hairstylist, I enjoy playing around with my hair color and have come to love dark blue. I’ve been blue for a few years and it didn’t seem like a big deal.
Yesterday, my fiancé broke the news to me that his parents are refusing to pay for the wedding venue if my hair is anything except my natural color. I was completely taken aback.
There’s a laundry list: They don’t approve of my tattoos, my recent weight gain due to some serious health issues (I had discussed my health problems privately with his mother), and that I’m not making as much money as I should be (hairstylists are struggling because we’re in a recession).
This family has been loving toward me this entire relationship, and all of a sudden I’ve found out how they really feel. I feel crushed. They were too cowardly to talk to me about their objections and instead put their son into a tough position.
I’m angry. His mom has been extremely apologetic to me (through text), but I honestly don’t want anything to do with them. My fiancé feels the same way. It’s to the point that we’re about to elope without telling anyone.
Is it wrong of me to stand my ground and say no to his parents? I appreciate them helping with the wedding, but I don’t want the help if they have stipulations. I need some insight from an outside source, thank you!
Yesterday, my fiancé broke the news to me that his parents are refusing to pay for the wedding venue if my hair is anything except my natural color. I was completely taken aback.
There’s a laundry list: They don’t approve of my tattoos, my recent weight gain due to some serious health issues (I had discussed my health problems privately with his mother), and that I’m not making as much money as I should be (hairstylists are struggling because we’re in a recession).
This family has been loving toward me this entire relationship, and all of a sudden I’ve found out how they really feel. I feel crushed. They were too cowardly to talk to me about their objections and instead put their son into a tough position.
I’m angry. His mom has been extremely apologetic to me (through text), but I honestly don’t want anything to do with them. My fiancé feels the same way. It’s to the point that we’re about to elope without telling anyone.
Is it wrong of me to stand my ground and say no to his parents? I appreciate them helping with the wedding, but I don’t want the help if they have stipulations. I need some insight from an outside source, thank you!